YOU'RE PLANNING YOUR WEDDING WRONG!

The reason we, as people, have parties/celebrations/gatherings are for two main reasons.

1. Cherish time with family.
2. Announce big news (whatever that news may be to you).

These two reasons are the sole purpose to your wedding. Hosting a nuptial ceremony and wedding reception is to share the news about your life partner with your family network. We are coming out to our world of people about this amazing news.

If this is you...

• I just want to be married to you as soon as I can.
• Affordability drives your whole reason for booking anything.
• Let's invite everyone.

YOU'RE PLANNING YOUR WEDDING WRONG!

THE WHY | Why are you planning a wedding? Why not elope or get married at a courthouse?

Your reason for planning a wedding should always be focused on the two of you sharing the best experience with the network of people who bring joy to you individually AND as a couple.

ATTENDANCE | Who has to be there?

Jot down that list of people who absolutely have to be at your ceremony and reception. Look at that list. Those names mean, if no one else came, it would not matter. This is a fact that is okay to admit. So many couples are bashful acknowledging this statement.

I am not.

They will live. You will live. They will understand. (If not, that's another set of words for another day.)

PRESSURE | A proper plan requires time to invest in it.

Be an adult and acknowledge that any investment in your life will take an amount of time. I am here to tell you that rushing is not the way. 

To the couples who have been saving, who have assistance from parents or have won the lottery, this message is STILL FOR YOU.I have attempted to look up the stats of people who work well under pressure. I could not find conclusive information to support. You want to know why?

From experience as a human being and planning couple's wedding events, the average person doesn't work well under pressure i.e. - stress aka mental and/or physical tension aka anxiety.

I tell my husband, clients and friends that anything rushed from me will be defective in some way. I am not ever happy with the result.

Choose your timeline and be happy with the end result. Do not let an unrealistic time be the foundation as to why you are making any decisions.

FINANCES | We use money to buy things.

Products and services cost money. There are levels to any product or service - off brand to name brand and everything in between. You get what you pay for. So many couples come into contact with horrible experiences because they choose the CHEAP option or BARTER for a price that does not include the service they want or need.

Like putting gas in your car and getting oil changes, you pay for the quality and understand that value. Weddings are no different.

SO, WHAT NOW???

So, if either of the points above resonate with you.

My dear put your checkbook down. Delete that wedding email you created. Close all of those damn wedding tabs you have, and start over.

Get an index card size piece of paper. Make a three-point list with your future partner.

1. How much money are you comfortable with investing into your event, within a 6 - 18 month period?

2. What are the (3) Must Haves at your wedding? Simplify it; no more than 1-3 words per Must Have.

3. WRITE THIS DOWN. (+ $2,500.00). Every couple goes over their budget. Based on the wedding budget, the overage ranges. I am telling you it will happen. Account for it. Set the total of 1 & 3 as your max amount to spend.

NOOOWWWWW. We have something to work with. You know what you have to spend and what you are working towards. Your decisions will be easier to make, when you streamline the nonsense out. You will be happy from start to finish.

You'll be happier in the end.

- xoxo

Fancy